Bernie, Hillary, Logic, and Emotion - Staying w/Conflict - Election Edition 2016 - ADRhub - Creighton NCR2024-03-19T08:11:26Zhttp://www.adrhub.com/forum/topics/bernie-hillary-logic-and-emotion-staying-w-conflict-election-edit?feed=yes&xn_auth=noAs a conflict resolution spec…tag:www.adrhub.com,2016-04-22:4905899:Comment:720442016-04-22T05:29:42.763ZJohn C. Turleyhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/JohnCTurley
<p>As a conflict resolution specialist, I incorporate the DISC behavioral methodology also known as the Personal Profile System(PPS) into my practice. Without being overly analytical, I try to determine the behavioral and personality traits of the disputants based on the <em><strong>Platinum Rule</strong></em><strong> </strong>of <em><strong>"do unto others as they would want you to do unto them,"</strong></em> a slight variation on the Golden Rule. I know myself and my personality traits as…</p>
<p>As a conflict resolution specialist, I incorporate the DISC behavioral methodology also known as the Personal Profile System(PPS) into my practice. Without being overly analytical, I try to determine the behavioral and personality traits of the disputants based on the <em><strong>Platinum Rule</strong></em><strong> </strong>of <em><strong>"do unto others as they would want you to do unto them,"</strong></em> a slight variation on the Golden Rule. I know myself and my personality traits as a results oriented individual with a high need for social interaction and acceptance or a <em><strong>High D</strong><strong>I.</strong></em> <strong> </strong>My self-perception is based on taking the PPS regularly without any deviation since I first discovered the methodology more than thirty years ago. In addition to knowing myself well, the PPS helps me to determine the personality characteristics of others and how best to interact with them. This is not a 100% foolproof approach;however, I have become more effective as a mediator and communicator by observing the general traits of people. It further helps me to speak to them on their terms and how they wish to be spoken to, as well as listened to in order to satisfy The Platinum Rule on their terms, not mine.</p>
<p>For example, I would lower my ego and direct comments before requesting an answer or conclusion when speaking with a person that is more detail oriented and desirous of time to weigh his options. A socially directed person requires engagement and discussion and a friendly non-threatening duplex communication approach in order to feel comfortable with the mediation process</p>
<p>What has the PPS got to do with Professor Bernie's post? Before I proceed, let me say that I am also "a guy from Brooklyn," East Flatbush to be exact. I knew the neighborhood well where Bernie Sanders campaigned in front of his old apartment building as he mentioned his apartment floor number and letter. Mine was 5C on Glenwood Road and New York Avenue. The PPS has everything to do with this Presidential campaign. Even an audience has a personality or Personal Profile. The key is to identify it as quickly as possible before the candidates step onto the platform, to observe and adjust their remarks throughout while the oratory is underway, and certainly during the question and answer portion of the rally. Here is where a logical and seemingly dispassionate candidate can modify her behavior in observance of the Platinum Rule to anticipate and address the needs of her audience. Likewise for the candidate that is long on emotions and short on specific details. Behavioral adjustments with respect for The Platinum Rule hold sway with groups, as well as during one on one encounters. This is not easy to do all of the time and under every series of circumstances. </p>
<p>So here is my prediction. The candidate who does the best job of observing and practicing The Platinum Rule will emerge as the winner. I modify Bernie's prediction by agreeing with him based on subtle behavioral changes that make us all more effective in communicating with each other either as a group or as individuals. Either candidate can adjust their behavior to satisfy the electorate's needs based on how they wish to hear their needs addressed and ultimately satisfied. Do the voters want logic or emotions,both, or the right blend of the two from their candidates? Once again, <em><strong>"do unto others as they would want you to do unto them"</strong></em><strong> </strong>is the key to winning the election for the Democrats, as well as the Republicans. It is also the key to addressing the positions of disputants during ADR sessions. Facilitate and certainly go beyond neutrality by practicing this important principle. People will respond based on their needs as you guide them toward a mutually rewarding outcome.</p> You hit a lot of great points…tag:www.adrhub.com,2016-04-19:4905899:Comment:718212016-04-19T21:05:20.016ZMat Beecherhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/MatBeecher
<p>You hit a lot of great points here Bernie (no not that one) Mayer. I got to feeling you'd be mentioning the <em>Conflict Paradox</em> just before you got there. I recently finished your work, and I could hear many of its ideas ringing through in this piece. Of course, perhaps as a conflict practitioner and graduate of the Werner Institute's graduate program, I've come to understanding the paradoxes you so elegantly defined in your latest book. Either way, what I like the most about this post…</p>
<p>You hit a lot of great points here Bernie (no not that one) Mayer. I got to feeling you'd be mentioning the <em>Conflict Paradox</em> just before you got there. I recently finished your work, and I could hear many of its ideas ringing through in this piece. Of course, perhaps as a conflict practitioner and graduate of the Werner Institute's graduate program, I've come to understanding the paradoxes you so elegantly defined in your latest book. Either way, what I like the most about this post is the paradigm of viewing this year's election through a conflict practitioner's lens. Let me do that tonight, and after NYC primaries are counted up and all, and maybe I'll make it back here with a more substantive statement. For now, just wanted to say thanks for posting this, I enjoyed the read and my newly framed way of thinking about things beyond the media's best effort to polarize just about everything about this election! </p>