ISCT by Dan Simon's Posts - ADRhub - Creighton NCR2024-03-29T04:43:36ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimonhttp://storage.ning.com/topology/rest/1.0/file/get/2535138664?profile=RESIZE_48X48&width=48&height=48&crop=1%3A1http://www.adrhub.com/profiles/blog/feed?user=1o4sbzyow6wzk&xn_auth=noWhy Do Social Media Conversations Get Ugly?tag:www.adrhub.com,2017-02-07:4905899:BlogPost:773082017-02-07T02:25:41.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>The latest blog entry explains why transformative mediation sessions are different from online conversations. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/social-networking-aint-transformative-mediation/" target="_blank">Read it here.</a></p>
<p>The latest blog entry explains why transformative mediation sessions are different from online conversations. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/social-networking-aint-transformative-mediation/" target="_blank">Read it here.</a></p>Mediation Shouldn't Try to Eliminate or Disregard Differencestag:www.adrhub.com,2017-01-14:4905899:BlogPost:772132017-01-14T18:10:54.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>Differences matter to us. Mediators should not try to push past those differences. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/even-best-mediation-doesnt-eliminate-differences/" target="_blank">Read the blog here:</a></p>
<p>Differences matter to us. Mediators should not try to push past those differences. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/even-best-mediation-doesnt-eliminate-differences/" target="_blank">Read the blog here:</a></p>The Same Transaction Can Feel Very Different, Depending on the Vibestag:www.adrhub.com,2016-12-29:4905899:BlogPost:769052016-12-29T17:11:29.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>Humans like to give gifts to each other. Why is that tendency assumed to be out of the question, once conflict arises. What if we can get back to being our normal, generous selves, even toward the person we've been fighting with? <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/transaction-different-interaction/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>
<p>Humans like to give gifts to each other. Why is that tendency assumed to be out of the question, once conflict arises. What if we can get back to being our normal, generous selves, even toward the person we've been fighting with? <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/transaction-different-interaction/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>What to do about Trumptag:www.adrhub.com,2016-11-29:4905899:BlogPost:760132016-11-29T20:17:09.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>The election of Donald Trump raises important questions. What does transformative theory say about how we should respond? <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/strength-responsiveness-time-trump/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>
<p>The election of Donald Trump raises important questions. What does transformative theory say about how we should respond? <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/strength-responsiveness-time-trump/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>Wikipedia Does Conflict Welltag:www.adrhub.com,2016-10-17:4905899:BlogPost:750962016-10-17T03:28:53.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>There's a lot of ugly conflict on the internet. Wikipedia knows how to handle conflict constructively. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/wikipedia-conflict-well/" target="_blank">Read the blog about it here.</a></p>
<p>There's a lot of ugly conflict on the internet. Wikipedia knows how to handle conflict constructively. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/wikipedia-conflict-well/" target="_blank">Read the blog about it here.</a></p>Miscommunication is a Symptom of Conflicttag:www.adrhub.com,2016-08-16:4905899:BlogPost:743172016-08-16T05:09:27.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>In the latest blog entry, <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/miscommunication-symptom-not-just-cause/" target="_blank">which you can read here,</a> I discuss how miscommunication happens once the destructive conflict cycle has started. That's why transformative mediation is so powerful. It can help clear up communication in the midst of conflict.</p>
<p>In the latest blog entry, <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/miscommunication-symptom-not-just-cause/" target="_blank">which you can read here,</a> I discuss how miscommunication happens once the destructive conflict cycle has started. That's why transformative mediation is so powerful. It can help clear up communication in the midst of conflict.</p>Name-calling is Underratedtag:www.adrhub.com,2016-06-21:4905899:BlogPost:731812016-06-21T05:46:57.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>Many mediators believe it's helpful to set ground rules for their sessions. One of the most popular rules is "no name-calling". That's a mistake. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/6-reasons-name-calling-can-healthy-part-mediation/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>
<p>Many mediators believe it's helpful to set ground rules for their sessions. One of the most popular rules is "no name-calling". That's a mistake. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/6-reasons-name-calling-can-healthy-part-mediation/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>What does "Trust the Process" mean?tag:www.adrhub.com,2016-06-04:4905899:BlogPost:731592016-06-04T19:16:29.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>The expression "trust the process" comes up a lot. But what process are we talking about? In this blog, I distinguish between the process that can be trusted, and the procedures that are used as manipulative tactics. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/trust-process-not-procedures/" target="_blank">You can read the blog here.</a></p>
<p>The expression "trust the process" comes up a lot. But what process are we talking about? In this blog, I distinguish between the process that can be trusted, and the procedures that are used as manipulative tactics. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/trust-process-not-procedures/" target="_blank">You can read the blog here.</a></p>Prince's Death Reminds me of Universal Valuestag:www.adrhub.com,2016-04-28:4905899:BlogPost:719502016-04-28T03:26:09.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>Strength and compassion are universal human values. The transformative theory of conflict assumes that our capacity to live up to those values is diminished during conflict's worst moments. The reason Prince was so beloved was his embodiment of those values. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/prince-empowerment-recognition/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>
<p>Strength and compassion are universal human values. The transformative theory of conflict assumes that our capacity to live up to those values is diminished during conflict's worst moments. The reason Prince was so beloved was his embodiment of those values. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/prince-empowerment-recognition/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>Shocking! Apologies help?tag:www.adrhub.com,2016-04-03:4905899:BlogPost:712652016-04-03T03:17:56.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>It's hard to believe, but legal culture still believes the best strategy is to defend and deny. So apparently it's newsworthy that hospitals save money when doctors apologize for their mistakes. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/surgeons-apologies-decrease-lawsuits-can-news/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>
<p>It's hard to believe, but legal culture still believes the best strategy is to defend and deny. So apparently it's newsworthy that hospitals save money when doctors apologize for their mistakes. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/surgeons-apologies-decrease-lawsuits-can-news/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>Is there a shortcut to Wisdom?tag:www.adrhub.com,2016-03-01:4905899:BlogPost:714162016-03-01T19:35:03.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>I think so. I think studying transformative mediation at least teaches you how to behave wisely. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/shortcut-wisdom-studying-transformative-mediation/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a> </p>
<p>I think so. I think studying transformative mediation at least teaches you how to behave wisely. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/shortcut-wisdom-studying-transformative-mediation/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a> </p>What's the Deal with Evaluative Mediation?tag:www.adrhub.com,2016-02-05:4905899:BlogPost:702882016-02-05T00:14:58.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>It's outrageous that "evaluative mediation" is still called mediation, isn't it? <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/evaluative-mediation-five-fatal-flaws/" target="_blank">Here's a blog about 5 of the fundamental problems with it.</a></p>
<p>It's outrageous that "evaluative mediation" is still called mediation, isn't it? <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/evaluative-mediation-five-fatal-flaws/" target="_blank">Here's a blog about 5 of the fundamental problems with it.</a></p>Divorce Mediation Has Gotten More Popular but Worsetag:www.adrhub.com,2015-12-21:4905899:BlogPost:701462015-12-21T22:04:26.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>Public awareness of mediation as an option for divorce has grown in recent years. Unfortunately, as awareness has grown, mediation practices have become more legalistic and less about party self-determination. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/divorce-mediation-mainstream-less-pure/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>
<p>Public awareness of mediation as an option for divorce has grown in recent years. Unfortunately, as awareness has grown, mediation practices have become more legalistic and less about party self-determination. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/divorce-mediation-mainstream-less-pure/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>Transformative Theory Makes People Like Metag:www.adrhub.com,2015-12-05:4905899:BlogPost:700462015-12-05T01:59:24.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>The transformative theory of conflict informs not only my mediation but the way I interact with everyone. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/people-like-me-now/" target="_blank">You can read the article here.</a></p>
<p>The transformative theory of conflict informs not only my mediation but the way I interact with everyone. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/people-like-me-now/" target="_blank">You can read the article here.</a></p>Enlightened Medical Approaches Run Parallel to Transformative Mediation.tag:www.adrhub.com,2015-10-21:4905899:BlogPost:692212015-10-21T02:37:17.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>In Atul Gawande's latest book, <em>Being Mortal, </em>he bemoans the over-medicalization of death. We who help with conflict can learn something from him. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/10/20/death-and-conflict-are-part-of-life/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>
<p>In Atul Gawande's latest book, <em>Being Mortal, </em>he bemoans the over-medicalization of death. We who help with conflict can learn something from him. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/10/20/death-and-conflict-are-part-of-life/" target="_blank">Read the blog here.</a></p>Transformative Mediation Conference Coming to Dayton, Ohio in Maytag:www.adrhub.com,2015-09-18:4905899:BlogPost:685442015-09-18T18:47:21.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>Read all about the upcoming transformative mediation conference in Dayton, OH. It's the first time since 2008 that such a conference has happened in the USA. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/09/18/first-transformative-mediation-conference-in-the-usa-in-8-years/" target="_blank">Read about it here.</a></p>
<p>Read all about the upcoming transformative mediation conference in Dayton, OH. It's the first time since 2008 that such a conference has happened in the USA. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/09/18/first-transformative-mediation-conference-in-the-usa-in-8-years/" target="_blank">Read about it here.</a></p>Empowerment and Recognition Sweep the Nationtag:www.adrhub.com,2015-06-29:4905899:BlogPost:662052015-06-29T03:48:43.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>The core concepts of the transformative theory of conflict, which are empowerment and recognition, work within people, between people and throughout large populations. The progress of marriage equality in the USA provides an example of how empowerment and recognition can affect tens of millions of people. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/06/28/empowerment-recognition-and-marriage-equality/" target="_blank">Read the whole blog entry here.</a></p>
<p>The core concepts of the transformative theory of conflict, which are empowerment and recognition, work within people, between people and throughout large populations. The progress of marriage equality in the USA provides an example of how empowerment and recognition can affect tens of millions of people. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/06/28/empowerment-recognition-and-marriage-equality/" target="_blank">Read the whole blog entry here.</a></p>"Who does he think he is?" and Other Things Mediation Clients Saytag:www.adrhub.com,2015-06-11:4905899:BlogPost:658662015-06-11T04:57:24.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>The transformative theory of conflict suggests that parties are generally struggling to regain a state of strength and responsiveness. This blog entry gives some examples of how some statements by parties might be interpreted within the transformative framework. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/06/08/10-things-people-in-conflict-say-and-what-they-might-mean-according-to-transformative-theory/" target="_blank">You can read the article here.</a></p>
<p>The transformative theory of conflict suggests that parties are generally struggling to regain a state of strength and responsiveness. This blog entry gives some examples of how some statements by parties might be interpreted within the transformative framework. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/06/08/10-things-people-in-conflict-say-and-what-they-might-mean-according-to-transformative-theory/" target="_blank">You can read the article here.</a></p>Mediators Don't Like Being Told What to Do Eithertag:www.adrhub.com,2015-05-23:4905899:BlogPost:658312015-05-23T11:59:27.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>We transformative mediators sometimes offend other mediators. We're so convinced that we provide a purer form of self-determination; and we complain about mediators who are manipulative or pushy. It's understandable that those other mediators don't like that. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/05/22/mediator-self-determination-vs-party-self-determination/" target="_blank">Read the full article here.</a></p>
<p>We transformative mediators sometimes offend other mediators. We're so convinced that we provide a purer form of self-determination; and we complain about mediators who are manipulative or pushy. It's understandable that those other mediators don't like that. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/05/22/mediator-self-determination-vs-party-self-determination/" target="_blank">Read the full article here.</a></p>Kent State Incident Helps Create Mediatortag:www.adrhub.com,2015-05-06:4905899:BlogPost:656712015-05-06T14:08:27.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>Janet Mueller explains the significance to her of May the Fourth. The violence that day led to the existence of an academic program that set her on the path to becoming a mediator. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/05/06/the-meanings-of-may-fourth/" target="_blank">You can read her post here.</a></p>
<p>Janet Mueller explains the significance to her of May the Fourth. The violence that day led to the existence of an academic program that set her on the path to becoming a mediator. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/05/06/the-meanings-of-may-fourth/" target="_blank">You can read her post here.</a></p>Fundamental Differences in Mediation Philosophiestag:www.adrhub.com,2015-04-03:4905899:BlogPost:651492015-04-03T21:33:57.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>I practice transformative mediation. And I believe that would I do is essentially a different process from those who practice Facilitative mediation. The latest blog contains a conversation that is typical of the ones I have with other mediators. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/04/02/mediation-why-distinguish-between-models/" target="_blank">You can read it here.</a></p>
<p>I practice transformative mediation. And I believe that would I do is essentially a different process from those who practice Facilitative mediation. The latest blog contains a conversation that is typical of the ones I have with other mediators. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/04/02/mediation-why-distinguish-between-models/" target="_blank">You can read it here.</a></p>Moving Divorce out of Courttag:www.adrhub.com,2015-03-13:4905899:BlogPost:647122015-03-13T03:59:06.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>Minnesota is considering legislation that allows divorcing couples to come to their own agreements without judicial oversight. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/03/12/minnesota-considers-moving-divorce-out-of-court/" target="_blank">You can read more about it here.</a></p>
<p>Minnesota is considering legislation that allows divorcing couples to come to their own agreements without judicial oversight. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/03/12/minnesota-considers-moving-divorce-out-of-court/" target="_blank">You can read more about it here.</a></p>The Netherlands to Host Transformative Mediation Conferencetag:www.adrhub.com,2015-03-02:4905899:BlogPost:643302015-03-02T01:14:30.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>There have already been major transformative mediation conferences in Italy and Slovenia; and there's a large number of practitioners in the UK. The Netherlands, too, has been a hub of transformative mediation activity. And in June, it will host a major conference. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/03/01/big-transformative-mediation-conference-to-hit-netherlands/" target="_blank">You can read about it here.</a></p>
<p>There have already been major transformative mediation conferences in Italy and Slovenia; and there's a large number of practitioners in the UK. The Netherlands, too, has been a hub of transformative mediation activity. And in June, it will host a major conference. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/03/01/big-transformative-mediation-conference-to-hit-netherlands/" target="_blank">You can read about it here.</a></p>More on Evaluation in Mediationtag:www.adrhub.com,2015-02-20:4905899:BlogPost:644082015-02-20T05:34:42.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>In legal circles, mediation is still understood to include opinions from the mediator on the strengths and weaknesses of the legal case. It's too bad. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/02/20/conversation-evaluation-mediation/" target="_blank">Here's a conversation about it.</a></p>
<p>In legal circles, mediation is still understood to include opinions from the mediator on the strengths and weaknesses of the legal case. It's too bad. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/02/20/conversation-evaluation-mediation/" target="_blank">Here's a conversation about it.</a></p>Evaluation has no Place in Mediationtag:www.adrhub.com,2015-01-21:4905899:BlogPost:637672015-01-21T06:26:37.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>If mediation is supposed to be about self-determination, where does evaluation fit in? It doesn't. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/01/21/downside-evaluation-mediation/" target="_blank">Read the latest blog post about it here.</a></p>
<p>If mediation is supposed to be about self-determination, where does evaluation fit in? It doesn't. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/01/21/downside-evaluation-mediation/" target="_blank">Read the latest blog post about it here.</a></p>Can You Mediate for Friends?tag:www.adrhub.com,2015-01-04:4905899:BlogPost:636652015-01-04T01:28:50.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>For mediators who see it as their job to get a deal done, it's unthinkable to mediate for friends, especially if the mediator is closer to one party than the other. But mediators who commit to being supportive of both parties find it much easier to work with friends. Hey, if you wouldn't treat your friends like mediation clients, maybe you aren't treating your clients right! <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/01/03/mediating-friends/" target="_blank">Read the article…</a></p>
<p>For mediators who see it as their job to get a deal done, it's unthinkable to mediate for friends, especially if the mediator is closer to one party than the other. But mediators who commit to being supportive of both parties find it much easier to work with friends. Hey, if you wouldn't treat your friends like mediation clients, maybe you aren't treating your clients right! <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2015/01/03/mediating-friends/" target="_blank">Read the article here.</a></p>3 Things Mediators Do That Undermine Party Self-Determinationtag:www.adrhub.com,2014-12-18:4905899:BlogPost:633722014-12-18T00:56:04.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>Mediators are often torn between their desire to get the parties to a result and their intention to support party self-determination. Those two directions are mutually incompatible. This blog post explores 3 common mediation interventions that undermine party self-determination. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2014/12/17/three-mediation-tools-undermine-party-self-determination/" target="_blank">You can read the post here.</a></p>
<p>Mediators are often torn between their desire to get the parties to a result and their intention to support party self-determination. Those two directions are mutually incompatible. This blog post explores 3 common mediation interventions that undermine party self-determination. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2014/12/17/three-mediation-tools-undermine-party-self-determination/" target="_blank">You can read the post here.</a></p>Bush Folger Speak Strongly about What's Needed to Save Mediationtag:www.adrhub.com,2014-12-04:4905899:BlogPost:633322014-12-04T05:07:15.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>In this blog post, you can see the 6 actions that Bush and Folger say are needed to save mediation. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2014/12/04/saving-mediation/" target="_blank">You can read the blog post here.</a></p>
<p>In this blog post, you can see the 6 actions that Bush and Folger say are needed to save mediation. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2014/12/04/saving-mediation/" target="_blank">You can read the blog post here.</a></p>Why Do Pushy Mediation Practices Persist?tag:www.adrhub.com,2014-11-11:4905899:BlogPost:630402014-11-11T00:59:56.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>In the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation's latest blog post, 5 reasons are suggested for why it's so hard for mediators to live up to the ideal of party self-determination. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2014/11/10/5-reasons-hard-mediators-support-self-determination/" target="_blank">You can read it here.</a></p>
<p>In the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation's latest blog post, 5 reasons are suggested for why it's so hard for mediators to live up to the ideal of party self-determination. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2014/11/10/5-reasons-hard-mediators-support-self-determination/" target="_blank">You can read it here.</a></p>Volunteer Mediator Inspired by the Transformative Approachtag:www.adrhub.com,2014-11-01:4905899:BlogPost:621422014-11-01T01:45:48.000ZISCT by Dan Simonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/ISCTbyDanSimon
<p>In this blog entry, volunteer mediator, Pamela Gregg, describes how meaningful she has found the work. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2014/10/31/volunteer-finds-inspiration-transformative-mediator/" target="_blank">You can read it here.</a> </p>
<p>In this blog entry, volunteer mediator, Pamela Gregg, describes how meaningful she has found the work. <a href="http://www.transformativemediation.org/2014/10/31/volunteer-finds-inspiration-transformative-mediator/" target="_blank">You can read it here.</a> </p>