All Blog Posts Tagged 'conflict' (418)

Do You Flip Your Lid?

I was unable to find the derivation of the expression flip your lid, but I have heard it used to describe an excessively angry reaction. In recent years I have heard the term apoplectic used when referring to extreme rage and for me, the meaning of these two expressions are similar. The visual of flip your lid however, conjures up an interesting image of the top of the head blowing open – presumably with fury propelling it. Perhaps, the expression symbolizes the emotional…


Added by Cinnie Noble on July 17, 2014 at 7:00am — No Comments

Coexistence and Conflict

Managing inter-communal conflict and violence is critical to national and international security in today's world. As societies are becoming more diverse, many more countries are facing ethnic, religious, cultural and social conflicts. The globalization of such conflicts is also increasing. Join me as I speak with Mari Fitzduff, the Program Director of the Coexistence and Conflict program at The Heller School of Social Policy and Management at Brandeis…


Added by Patricia M Porter on July 15, 2014 at 10:43pm — No Comments

Walking Away With Grace

Sometimes when we are in conflict with another person we are faced with a dilemma about what we are or are not willing to say or do, or give or take, to reconcile matters. Though at some level of consciousness we want to settle things, there are times when we realize that what it may take to do so would compromise our values and needs. Or, we may have an excessive amount of antipathy towards the other person or sense that coming from them. Or, we may be worn down and despairing, have lost…


Added by Cinnie Noble on July 10, 2014 at 7:00am — No Comments

Community Mediation: Empowerment and Dialogue

In many communities around the country there are community mediation centers supported by volunteer mediators. Community Boards of San Francisco is the oldest community mediation center in the country, started in 1976. The philosophy of community mediation centers is to empower community… Continue

Added by Patricia M Porter on July 8, 2014 at 10:50pm — No Comments

Jumping from the Frying Pan into the Fire

It happens in conflict that things frequently escalate in a way that results in the other person or us making things worse. The expression “jumping from the frying pan into the fire” applies here as an idiom that generally means escaping a bad situation for a worse situation. According to one source, “it was made the subject of a 15th-century fable that eventually entered the Aesopic canon”.…


Added by Cinnie Noble on July 3, 2014 at 7:00am — No Comments

A Look Back at Hurricane Katrina- A Radical New Role for Conflict Management Professionals

 Using Hurricane Katrina as a model, this speaker will discuss the phenomenology of disasters in America. Various deleterious factors can be forecast that impede effective emergency response. These factors can be better managed when one person is placed in a role to oversee and manage the crisis phase of a disaster. A Conflict Management Professional can unify the ad hoc crisis management team and ensure its accountability and engagement. Provision of a structural solution of this…


Added by Patricia M Porter on July 1, 2014 at 10:12pm — No Comments

Fed Up!

The expression “fed up” has several meanings. One source states: “To have had more than enough of something or someone, or to be bored with or tired of the same.” The same source says that the expression dates back to the early 19th century when reportedly “the languid aristocracy were compared to farm animals that were force fed to make them plump for market”.

The phrase later became part of the general…


Added by Cinnie Noble on June 26, 2014 at 7:00am — No Comments

The Riddle of Principle and Compromise – How We Can't Have One Without the Other

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When to compromise and when to hold fast to our principles is one of the most difficult challenges we face when dealing with conflict. Listen in on June 24 at 8 pm Eastern as mediator, professor and author Bernie Mayer considers how these two values…


Added by Patricia M Porter on June 24, 2014 at 10:37pm — No Comments

Are You a Pot Stirrer?

This week’s ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) blog is not about cooking, though the title and the metaphor seems to conjure up the picture of soups and stews simmering on top of a stove. When it comes to conflict the expression – stirring the pot – is defined by one source as “to cause unrest or dissent”. It is an idiomatic way to explore what some of us do when we disagree with a decision, or it may be what we do in…


Added by Cinnie Noble on June 19, 2014 at 7:00am — No Comments

Stop the Dreaded Drama and End Destructive Conflict

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We have all experienced the drama when we engage in destructive and dysfunctional conflict. It is draining, damaging and downright unhealthy. Zena Zumeta will talk with the Texas Conflict Coach, Pattie Porter to discuss her new Minibuk…


Added by Patricia M Porter on June 17, 2014 at 11:18pm — No Comments

Conflict Emergency Kit

So ... it's happened. You are being drawn into a conflict. Things are going downhill and you can see the pattern - attack and counterattack. You don't want to go there. What can you do???

I found these suggestions in a book entitled "The Seven Challenges Workbook" which is a guide to cooperative communication skills. They are great to practice when you are in a conflict 'emergency.'…


Added by The Olive Branch Blog on June 16, 2014 at 11:35am — No Comments

Fighters, Fleers, and Fixers

As a mediation trainer for fifteen years, I must have had these words come out of my mouth thousands of times: Don’t try to fix it for them. As anyone that trains mediators knows, problem solving is such a hard habit to break when you are first starting out. You listen intently to what the parties have to say and the predicament that they find themselves in and when you…


Added by Elizabeth Clemants on June 12, 2014 at 12:09pm — No Comments

Get Your Goat

I haven’t heard this expression – get your goat – for a while and since writing this blog I have become intrigued with such idioms. This one typically refers to the reaction when someone does something that provokes, infuriates, or annoys us. According to one source the origin is described as follows:

“The dictionary definition of goat is 'a ruminant quadruped of the genus Capra'. What's that got to do…


Added by Cinnie Noble on June 12, 2014 at 7:00am — No Comments

IMCP: International Mediators’ Community of Practice

The Alliance for Peacebuilding (AfP) is seeking to create a new Affinity Group for international mediators. The International Mediators’ Community of Practice (IMCP) will provide an informal platform for…


Added by Nathalie Al-Zyoud on June 11, 2014 at 10:34am — No Comments

Pain in the Neck

When we are in conflict with another person or the dynamics between us seem to be leaning towards one developing, some of us have a tendency to begin to find fault with the other person. We may say to ourselves or others that she or he is “getting on our nerves”. We may attribute negative motives to her or him. We may stay away from this person or show the emotions we are experiencing in various ways. One of the expressions some people use to describe people who are annoying us and to whom…


Added by Cinnie Noble on June 5, 2014 at 9:00am — No Comments

Peace work comes in all shapes and sizes

Literally, peace work does come in all shapes and sizes. Recently I came onboard with an organization called Arts Action Group. Some really great folks who are arts educators have been traveling to Kosovo and Western Saharah to involve children and youth in arts education and conflict resolution work.

When people find out about this work they question how it resolves conflict. Well you tell me, if children have been affected by dangerous living conditions and the rhetoric of how to hate… Continue

Added by Jillian Post on June 4, 2014 at 2:21pm — No Comments

You Could Cut the Air with a Knife

Have you ever heard this idiom – ‘you could cut the air with a knife’? Generally-speaking, it is a term that describes a tense situation between people and, at times, there is a sense of foreboding that something unpleasant is about to happen. When I looked up the derivation I did not find a lot to draw from. However, here is one commentator’s attempt at a physiological explanation:

“I suggest…


Added by Cinnie Noble on May 29, 2014 at 7:00am — No Comments

The Silent Treatment

One of the ways that some people manage conflict is by using the ‘silent treatment’. This expression refers to “Maintenance of aloof silence toward another as an expression of one’s anger or disapproval”. The same source says this phrase is “a deliberate discourteous act”.

There may be a number of reasons for using the silent treatment – and some intentions may be like those for letting the other person…


Added by Cinnie Noble on May 22, 2014 at 7:00am — No Comments

Unbearable Conflict Requires Courageous Conversation

Eric Galton

Many people have encountered great challenges and unbearable pain from disputes as a result of strongly held values, belief systems and personal principles. And yet, people have the courage and ability to break through these barriers and create a common bridge. Eric Galton, renowned mediator, is a catalyst for these breakthroughs providing people with a safe…


Added by Patricia M Porter on May 20, 2014 at 11:48pm — No Comments

Conflict transformation skills training modules

I am interested to get input, guidance and support to provide/develop  conflict transformation skills training modules for middle and high students in Ontario Canada.

I plan to adapt these trainings for the high school and college students in the Swat Valley of Pakistan latter in partnership with facilitators and teachers.

I appreciate any input, guidance and will be pleased to continue this conversation. Best wishes Jahan Zeb Email Twitter…


Added by Jahan Zeb on May 20, 2014 at 12:12pm — 1 Comment

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