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Whenever I say Intent, Action, Effect it always feels like I'm saying lights, camera, action!

Anyways...let’s take a moment and look at this model together. I really like this model because we are able to break down virtually every conversation we have and talk about what our private motives were and what was the public event/action that took…

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Isn't this a beautiful picture of a glorious winter?  From all the beauty that we can see in this picture we know that something is wrong.  That snow is covering poop.



This past weekend I picked up my dog’s poop that had accumulated over the winter.  It was a bittersweet moment, bitter because it…

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Let me give you two scenarios:



1. It's about two hours after lunch and you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror.  You notice you have food wedged into your front teeth, and you just got out of an important meeting, and no one said anything!  You feel embarrassed that you were walking around like that, but kind of glad no one…

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So I have an idea…it’s not a new idea, but it is one that will help you learn more about people, glean more information about them, and to get them talking. You ready for it? Here it is…

Shut up!

(Originally posted at Absolution Mediation)

"to cause partiality or favortism in (a person); influence, especially unfairly."

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In February I had the opportunity to speak at Ignite Waterloo.  Wow...was I nervous!  I had 20 slides that auto-advanced every 15 seconds.  I'm not going to lie, I didn't say everything that I wanted to say in that 5 minutes, but I think my message got across.  Take a…

(Originally posted at Absolution Mediation)

Recently I read an article/blog questioning "How Powerful is an Apology?" We all like to think that when we receive or give an apology, that some sort of healing takes place.  In this…

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"We're just going to keep going, we're not going to stop" - Scott Stratten

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Take a moment to read this quote,

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." - George Bernard Shaw

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I am currently reading “A is for Asshole: The ABC’s of Conflict Resolution” (Review coming soon) by Victoria Pynchon and one of the chapters is called “J is for Judge.” All of a sudden it hit me. We are hard-wired…

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I spend a lot of time listening these days.  I have to tell you, it's awesome.  I also am starting to write a fair amount about listening on this blog and on Twitter as well.



So why do I spend time writing and speaking (ironic isn't it?) on listening?



Because there is a true art to…

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Over the past few months I have waited with baited breath for this show Fairly Legal to come to television. Many questions have passed through my mind (as well as other mediators, I’m sure) about how this show is going to portray mediation. And finally it debuted on U.S. airwaves last week with USA Network (watch it…

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Every time I move I am faced with a major crisis.  The kitchen cupboards.  I can never remember where we put the plates, where the cheese slicer is, where my favourite pan is, and I know you have the same thing.  However, time goes on and the more we reach for that (enter search item…

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What is it about a story that makes people so intrigued?  This past Friday I posted the above status on Facebok; Once…

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So Christmas has come and gone, we went to some family things, talked to some friends, and maybe have a few family things lingering yet.  I'm willing to bet that over this holiday…

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So the other day I issued a challenge to you. Clear your mind of thoughts and listen to someone fully without clouding…

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From a very young age, we tell our children to listen. As we grow older and wiser, we are continually told to listen. While we all know what the word ‘listen’ means, how often do we actually stop and…