Comments - Why Listening is Important - ADRhub - Creighton NCR2024-03-29T07:23:42Zhttp://www.adrhub.com/profiles/comment/feed?attachedTo=4905899%3ABlogPost%3A7588&xn_auth=noI think we need to listen bot…tag:www.adrhub.com,2011-02-08:4905899:Comment:82082011-02-08T16:45:14.672ZJason Dykstrahttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/JasonDykstra
I think we need to listen both objectively and subjectively. If we only do one then we will be missing out on some of the key factors that might be happening with the people we are listening to. We will miss some of the things that Jeff talked a bit about in the comments below, I think. That's my opinion though.
I think we need to listen both objectively and subjectively. If we only do one then we will be missing out on some of the key factors that might be happening with the people we are listening to. We will miss some of the things that Jeff talked a bit about in the comments below, I think. That's my opinion though. OK, I will ask a question op…tag:www.adrhub.com,2011-02-08:4905899:Comment:83072011-02-08T16:20:18.680ZAdinahttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/Adina
OK, I will ask a question open to everyone who would like to answer: do we listen objectively or subjectively?
OK, I will ask a question open to everyone who would like to answer: do we listen objectively or subjectively? Adina,
Thanks for your comme…tag:www.adrhub.com,2011-02-07:4905899:Comment:82032011-02-07T19:01:44.353ZJason Dykstrahttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/JasonDykstra
<p>Adina, </p>
<p>Thanks for your comment. I especially like, "A good listener takes the conversation seriously" I think too often we don't take it serious, and those actions will always come across to the person who is talking. Thanks for your input.</p>
<p>Adina, </p>
<p>Thanks for your comment. I especially like, "A good listener takes the conversation seriously" I think too often we don't take it serious, and those actions will always come across to the person who is talking. Thanks for your input.</p> As you mentioned, listening i…tag:www.adrhub.com,2011-02-07:4905899:Comment:83012011-02-07T16:59:46.703ZAdinahttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/Adina
<p>As you mentioned, listening is an art, and it is also a skill to be develop. When you are really listening you are not thinking about anything else. Good listeners have the ability to listen without the urge of answering. A good listener takes the conversation seriously and respectfully. You are not really listening if you have a reply for every single phrase!</p>
<p>Adina Schuller</p>
<p>As you mentioned, listening is an art, and it is also a skill to be develop. When you are really listening you are not thinking about anything else. Good listeners have the ability to listen without the urge of answering. A good listener takes the conversation seriously and respectfully. You are not really listening if you have a reply for every single phrase!</p>
<p>Adina Schuller</p> Jeff, I appreciate your added…tag:www.adrhub.com,2011-01-31:4905899:Comment:76012011-01-31T16:23:24.000ZJason Dykstrahttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/JasonDykstra
<p>Jeff, I appreciate your added comments! Also, thanks for including some of the key listening skills that you find work effective for you. I'm sure others will benefit greatly from it! </p>
<p>Listening is something that everyone can use to better themselves and the relationships that they are in (both personal and professional), it is a shame that more people have not focussed attention on that. Being able to take in what the other person's words and body language are saying is a skill…</p>
<p>Jeff, I appreciate your added comments! Also, thanks for including some of the key listening skills that you find work effective for you. I'm sure others will benefit greatly from it! </p>
<p>Listening is something that everyone can use to better themselves and the relationships that they are in (both personal and professional), it is a shame that more people have not focussed attention on that. Being able to take in what the other person's words and body language are saying is a skill that will benefit everyone. Thanks for your comments Jeff!</p>
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<p>P.S. I love poker as well!</p> Jason,
Listening is a cruci…tag:www.adrhub.com,2011-01-31:4905899:Comment:75982011-01-31T14:46:43.000ZJeff Thompsonhttp://www.adrhub.com/profile/JeffThompson
<p>Jason,</p>
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<p>Listening is a crucial element to being a successful mediator and well, successful [<em>enter almost anything</em>].</p>
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<p>Often, and increasingly more, during public talks and trainings I emphasize the important of listening <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>and</strong></span> getting people to consider how they listen. You mention body lanuage and I agree with you. What I find often is how it seems to be quickly glazed over (the training…</p>
<p>Jason,</p>
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<p>Listening is a crucial element to being a successful mediator and well, successful [<em>enter almost anything</em>].</p>
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<p>Often, and increasingly more, during public talks and trainings I emphasize the important of listening <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>and</strong></span> getting people to consider how they listen. You mention body lanuage and I agree with you. What I find often is how it seems to be quickly glazed over (the training and actual time spent discerning actions and displays of "listening").</p>
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<p>What helps me is reflecting on the notion of how I encode my listening displays and then evaluate if it is being decoded the way I intended.</p>
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<p>Much like in golf and poker (I haven't played golf in 8 years and the later admittedly is something I enjoy heaps), listening is always a work in progress. Just like how using the 1 wood or getting "Aces in the hole" can have have 10 different results in 10 trys dispite being "used the same way each time", the same is the case also for using effective listening displays.</p>
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<p>As mediation includes human interactants, the only thing constant is change. That said, there are key listening skills which are effective. This includes:</p>
<ul>
<li>nodding</li>
<li>eye contact</li>
<li>forward leans</li>
<li>utterances (uhh-huh, mmm, etc)</li>
</ul>
<p>The crititical point here is utilizing the heuristic model of learning (which I find to be very effective for mediation) which is for each person to try it out and apply themselves. Yes, the above points have help me many times, yet I apply them uniquely and at the right time (random- the study of 'time' is called chronemics!). </p>
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<p>Each person has to apply it uniquely for their situations... and then share it with others to increase the opportunity for everyone to learn! :)</p>
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<p>-Jeff</p>