(Orginally posted at Absolution Mediation)
Every time I move I am faced with a major crisis. The kitchen cupboards. I can never remember where we put the plates, where the cheese slicer is, where my favourite pan is, and I know you have the same thing. However, time goes on and the more we reach for that (enter search item here) the more our muscles/memory remember where it is.The same is with our communication skills. It takes time and practice to remember how to approach situations but eventually you can do it without "thinking." Ok, fine, it's not exactly the same, but you get the idea. The more we practice re-framing, re-phrasing, good questions, active listening, the better we become at them.