After you make a request — or subtly hint at what you want someone to do — stop and let that person do all the talking.
"When they start talking, they will self-discover the urgency of your request," he explains. They'll decide on their own that they should oblige, without you having to beg.
If you do all the talking, they may tune you out or feel like they're being told (rather than asked) to do something, which will make them not want to do it.
2. As they are speaking, pay attention to the adjectives and adverbs they use.
"An adjective is a way to embellish a noun, and an adverb is a way to embellish a ver