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Don’t Shoot the Messenger

You’ve heard the saying “Don’t Shoot the Messenger” before.  It means that you shouldn’t blame the bearer of bad news for the news that he/she is delivering.So … what does that have to do with conflict?I am going to draw the parallel to anger.Anger is a messenger.It may look or act like an isolated emotion that is the result of impulse, in the heat of…See More
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The “Take-Away” Effect

As the parent of three, I’m always on the hunt for ways to incentivize (bribe) them to do what I want. Now, you may be tempted to believe that incentivizing children is the easy way out – or even wrong. But, think about it this way: We’re all “incentivized.” Would you show up for work if you weren’t getting paid?Recently, I read something that’s really helped me get the most of my incentivizing strategy. According to research, the loss you feel when something is taken away far exceeds the gain…See More
Jan 12
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A Tale of Two Attitudes

So, when you finish reading this blog, please let me know … which attitude do you think is better?I know several octogenarians and nonagearians who are very active and still exercising every day.This blog is a comparison of the approaches of two of them – both are gentlemen.Tom, in his late 80s, was a scratch golfer in his day. He and his wife travel south every winter to escape the snow and cold temperatures in favor of sunshine and green fairways.Tom joined a golf club and when I first met…See More
Jan 9
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Never Fight with Your Spouse? Why That’s NOT a Good Thing

WARNING – you’ll need to set-aside conventional wisdom to read this post!Haven’t we all been taught that the less conflict in a marriage, the better? Well, recent studies say that’s actually NOT true. In fact, studies now show that couples who have regular conflict actually are happier in their marriages!So, let me clarify – what we’ve learned is that couples who report little to no conflict in their marriages score very low on marital happiness surveys. Those who report moderate conflict…See More
Jan 5
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The Bystander Effect

If you were witnessing of an emergency situation that was occurring right in front of you, you would do something to help the person in trouble or report the emergency, right?Well, it turns out that your response might depend on how many other people are present.Here’s the deal … the more people are present, the less likely you are to help the person in distress. That’s called the “bystander effect.”…See More
Jan 3
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To Change Or Not To Change? That Is the Question!

After many years of counseling couples in my therapy office, I’ve learned to pick-up on different patterns, many of which are universal in so many of the couples I see.One of those patterns concerns change – namely, lack of change vs. too much change. I’ll explain…When I learn more about couples, especially those who have been together five or more years, I sometimes learn something interesting: One partner comes into the relationship hoping the other partner won’t change at all. The other…See More
Oct 27, 2016
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Is “Math Anxiety” Contagious?

Lots of parents help their kids with homework and projects.But did you know that if you are “math anxious,” you may actually be passing that anxiety along to your kids – by trying to help?Yup. That’s according to a study of first and second graders published inPsychological Science.…See More
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Oct 18, 2016
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Because Children are Listening

I pledge to discuss this election with civility, to treat people whose opinions differ from mine with respect, and to focus on ideas, policies and values.I will encourage others to do the same.I will speak up when I hear name-calling, stereotypes and slurs.I will do this because children are listening, and it’s important that adults model good citizenship.The election is a mere 22 days away.I share this pledge with you in the context of a New York Times article entitled:…See More
Oct 17, 2016
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Does “Conflict” Get a Bad Rap?

What do you think of when someone says the word, “conflict”? If you ‘re like most of us, it conjurs-up a negative feeling and response. In fact, Kerry Foreman, from the Huffington Post, likes to ask 5th graders to react to the word, “conflict,” when she speaks to children.No suprise – all the children have negative responses to the word. And, frankly, why wouldn’t they? Most of us have been taught that conflict is BAD. Conflict is something to be avoided at all costs. And, it’s best not to have…See More
Oct 13, 2016
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6. Wholeness

As of today, only 533 people have reached Earth orbit – I had to look that statistic up.Why is that important?Because they had the opportunity to view the world — from an amazing place. They peered out of their space capsule to see the globe without boundaries and lines on a map. They had the advantage of seeing the whole — in all its beauty and simplicity.…See More
Oct 10, 2016
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What’s Ebb-and-Flow and What’s Permanent?

I love seeing interviews with long-time married couples. They’re always so honest. For example, you won’t much hear about a 60 year-marriage that was total bliss or total despair. Instead, you’ll often hear stories about ups-and-d0wns, ebbs-and-flows, and peaks-and-valleys.In fact, most couples who have been together for decades can talk about entire weeks/months/years during which questioned if the relationship would work out at all. But, here they are, decades later, laughing and smiling…See More
Oct 6, 2016
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Don’t Shoot the Messenger

Posted on February 20, 2017 at 9:49am 0 Comments

You’ve heard the saying “Don’t Shoot the Messenger” before.  It means that you shouldn’t blame the bearer of bad news for the news that he/she is delivering.

So … what does that have to do with conflict?

I am going to draw the parallel to anger.

Anger is a messenger.

It may look or act like…


Does Our Intent = Our Actions?

Posted on February 13, 2017 at 10:22am 0 Comments

I started thinking about this blog topic because I read an article about a famous American who thought he was open to negotiation and compromise. Was he? I’m not sure. But apparently, he thought so.

Stephen Covey said that “We judge ourselves by our intentions …”  however, others don’t know anything about our intentions. They can’t read our minds. All they can observe are our…


Videoconferenced to Room 4401 of the Grant Sawyer State Office Building,

Posted on February 6, 2017 at 9:04pm 0 Comments

I chose this topic for today’s post because it’s the first day of the Nevada Legislature. And I am about to be immersed in a pretty adversarial place for the next 120 days.

Many years ago,  I heard the phrase “don’t let perfect stand in the way of good” and I will admit … I wasn’t quite sure what advice a legislator was trying to give a group of us that legislative session.

However, over the years, I have learned.

The legislative process can…


How To “Undramatically” Back-Out of Drama

Posted on February 2, 2017 at 2:07pm 0 Comments

Do you ever find yourself in the midst of “drama” you just can’t seem to escape? If you’re like a lot of my clients, you may be involved in family drama, friend drama, or (my favorite) relationship drama, some of which just seems to constantly revolve around you.

No matter how you “got into” the drama in the first place, one of the most important skills you can gain is learning how to GET OUT of the ongoing conflict – without creating even MORE drama.…


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