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May 29
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Leaders: Would you rather be liked or respected?

Leadership is hard and lonely.Creating a vision and direction can impact many – like shaking up the status quo. So, as you forge a new leadership role or build on an existing one … would you feel better if you are liked or respected?That’s a tricky question — because most of us would answer that we want both.However, if we worry too much about being liked, it will start to cloud our ability to lead.The fact is that your decisions can’t possibly make everyone happy. And the minute you try to,…See More
May 22
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Civil Conversations

A colleague recently told me about relationships he had that were being strained by the negative public discourse in our country.People that he had been friendly with were talking about politics and communication was breaking down. Sides were being taken and the value of the relationships they had previously enjoyed were questioned and sometimes lost.He was frustrated by this turn of events and wanted to find a way to bring people together again.He told me about the …See More
May 15
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Hitting P A U S E

You’ve just been hit with a fistful of words and your immediate reaction is to hit back with a barrage of your own.Austrian psychiatrist, Viktor Frankl, once said “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.”Being so reactionary, with your fists raised, isn’t the best way to be. It just escalates the situation.So … what is an alternative response?My suggestion is to activate your internal ‘pause’ button.…See More
May 8
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Are You Having A.R.E. Discussions? Why You Should

Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone – only to discover a)he/she isn’t listening at all 2) he/she is distracted by technology or c) he/she is already getting defensive even before you start to speak?If so, you’re certainly not alone (and, let’s face it, you’ve probably been a less-than-attentive listener, too!). In fact, lots of folks who come through my office complain about not feeling “heard,” and the lack of communication is creating pretty intense conflict in the…See More
Apr 27
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When is Feeling Bad Good?

We’ve all heard of the “power of positive thinking.” But sometimes it’s just hard to turn that frown upside down.So what then?Sometimes negative feelings persist.Now, let me be clear. I am not talking about emotions like hopelessness, despair or worthlessness. These are referred to as “empty emotions” and can be signs of depression that need to be treated.…See More
Apr 24
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Why Do Women Apologize So Much?

I was standing in a hallway of a restaurant waiting for my turn to use a women’s restroom. The door was locked and within 10 seconds it opened and a lady appeared. She looked at me and said “I’m sorry.” And I thought … for what?Why would this person think to say she was sorry in this situation?It turns out that women believe that being apologetic is a way to demonstrate that you are being polite. And saying sorry means that you aren’t being rude.…See More
Apr 17
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8 Tips to Healthy Communication with Your Teen

Being a teenager can be confusing — it’s a time filled with significant changes, growth and uncertainty.It’s easy to forget what that felt like. And this can impact your ability to communicate with your teen. Your world view is so different.Here are a few tips that I found online that can perhaps help you to bridge the communication divide with your teenager.…See More
Apr 10
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When Conflict Escalates …

Conflicts will grow over time if unaddressed.Friedrich Glasl published a conflict escalation model in the 90s that include nine levels.Before you read these, please put yourself in the mindset of a conflict you have, or are, experiencing or have witnessed. I think you will be amazed how real the words become.Stage 1: Tension – This is the starting point, when there are occasional clashes of opinion, however, the tension can still be dissipated through discussion.Stage 2: Debate – Black and…See More
Apr 3
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Does Our Intent = Our Actions?

I started thinking about this blog topic because I read an article about a famous American who thought he was open to negotiation and compromise. Was he? I’m not sure. But apparently, he thought so.Stephen Covey said that “We judge ourselves by our intentions …”  however, others don’t know anything about our intentions. They can’t read our minds. All they can observe are our actions.…See More
Feb 13
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Letting Perfect be the Enemy of the Good

I chose this topic for today’s post because it’s the first day of the Nevada Legislature. And I am about to be immersed in a pretty adversarial place for the next 120 days.Many years ago,  I heard the phrase “don’t let perfect stand in the way of good” and I will admit … I wasn’t quite sure what advice a legislator was trying to give a group of us that legislative session.However, over the years, I have learned.The legislative process can be a pretty contentious one. Often positions on bills…See More
Feb 6
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Feb 3
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How To “Undramatically” Back-Out of Drama

Do you ever find yourself in the midst of “drama” you just can’t seem to escape? If you’re like a lot of my clients, you may be involved in family drama, friend drama, or (my favorite) relationship drama, some of which just seems to constantly revolve around you.No matter how you “got into” the drama in the first place, one of the most important skills you can gain is learning how to GET OUT of the ongoing conflict – without creating even MORE drama.…See More
Feb 2
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What happened to respectful dialogue?

It’s tiring …listening to all of the name calling and finger pointing that is going on in the world.What happened to respectful dialogue?How are we supposed to address our nation’s issues if we show such disrespect for each other??People can disagree. That’s a given. It’s human nature to have different points of view.But does that mean that we have to be so rude and attack each…See More
Jan 30
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The Courage to Listen

I remember where I was on January 28, 1986.I had just arrived at a rural hospital in New York on a work trip when I saw the horrible video of the disintegration of the Space Shuttle Challenger. Everyone was stunned. There would be no work accomplished that day.73 seconds after liftoff, there was a devastating explosion, just like Bob Ebeling had…See More
Jan 23
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The Danger Of “Just Getting It Over With…”

Because I do so much work with couples in distress, it’s inevitable I’ll work with couples in the midst of a divorce. So, I’m often there from the announcement through the final paperwork, which gives me great insight into the entire process from start to finish.One trend I see over and over again is the notion of “I just want to get this over with.” After so much turmoil, distress, and conflict, it’s not unusual for at least one partner to exhaust himself/herself and concede to any request…See More
Jan 19

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Encouraging Lateral Thinking to Problem Solve

Posted on May 29, 2017 at 1:30pm 0 Comments

Our model of thinking in the Western world is based on linear logic – which is entirely derived from the left side of the brain.

Now don’t get me wrong. Linear thinkers are important — they keep us on track in a methodical, sequential and focused way, which is great for lots of problem solving situations.

Linear thinkers tend to see the world as black and white and are comfortable with a singular answer to a problem.

Lateral thinkers, on the…

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When Is Conflict Worth It?

Posted on May 25, 2017 at 1:30pm 0 Comments

Have you ever been around someone who creates conflict even over the smallest events or problems? It’s as if this person might be hunting for conflict or complaint and seizes on every opportunity to “have it out.”

Even though that’s the extreme, it IS hard to know when lodging a complaint might be worth the conflict that ensues. And, knowing when conflict is appropriate is even harder for those who feel they didn’t have a “voice” growing up (now that I’m a grown-up, I get to…

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Leaders: Would you rather be liked or respected?

Posted on May 22, 2017 at 3:49pm 0 Comments

Leadership is hard and lonely.

Creating a vision and direction can impact many – like shaking up the status quo. So, as you forge a new leadership role or build on an existing one … would you feel better if you are liked or respected?

That’s a tricky question — because most of us would answer that we want both.

However, if we worry too much about being liked, it will start to cloud our ability to lead.

The fact is that your decisions…

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Does Long Distance = Less Conflict?

Posted on May 18, 2017 at 1:30pm 0 Comments

When it comes to long-distance relationships, the generally-accepted philosophy is that they’re not a good idea and often lead to conflict and break-ups. But, is that really the case?

The latest studies actually show the opposite. The authors of one study written about in Psychology Today surveyed married couples who were living partly or entirely apart and found some pretty surprising results: Not only were they as satisfied with their marriages, they actually reported LESS…

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