This week’s ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) blog is not about cooking, though the title and the metaphor seems to conjure up the picture of soups and stews simmering on top of a stove. When it comes to conflict the expression – stirring the pot – is defined by one source as “to cause unrest or dissent”. It is an idiomatic way to explore what some of us do when we disagree with a decision, or it may be what we do in reaction to something another person does or says that we do not like, or it may be when we raise issues on purpose to encourage debate or to cause unrest for some reason.
Taking the image a little further as it applies to interpersonal conflict, consider that the vegetables or meat in the pot represent various aspects of conflict-related matters floating around. These may be the issues, facts, needs, values, hopes, and expectations we bring to the pot. Some pieces fall to the bottom and may stick. Others float to the top. Other pieces float around in the juices. Some add flavour. Some get overdone. You get the picture.
If you are tempted to stir the pot about an interaction, the following questions may help digest what is in the pot.
What other ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) may you add here?
Originally posted at www.cinergycoaching.com