We all have ways that we manage conflict that we have learned over time. It is often the case that at least one of our conflict management styles seems to be dominant and reflects the default approach we take under stress. Our way of engaging in conflict of course, depends on the person and what we are experiencing from and about him or her and the situation. Also, the timing, our mood at the time, the impact of the dispute on us and each other and other factors all enter in to determine how we interact and respond. Avoiding conflict is one choice we have and sometimes it works as the optimum approach. Other times, we avoid conflict to our detriment.
If we face conflict head on, the result may be a resolution of the issues, or a better understanding of what happened, or reconciliation of the relationship. However, we don’t know that or if the outcome will meet our hopes and needs. The unknown can create unsettled feelings that support any tendency to avoid. Ultimately though, the results of avoiding conflict typically lead to a void filled with unsettled feelings. Examining when and why we avoid conflict is a helpful exercise in the quest for conflict mastery. Here are this week’s questions about this topic:
Any other comments and/or what other ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) may elicit increased awareness on this topic?
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