When we are in conflict with another person or the dynamics between us seem to be leaning towards one developing, some of us have a tendency to begin to find fault with the other person. We may say to ourselves or others that she or he is “getting on our nerves”. We may attribute negative motives to her or him. We may stay away from this person or show the emotions we are experiencing in various ways. One of the expressions some people use to describe people who are annoying us and to whom we are reacting in one or more of these ways is to say they are a “pain in the neck”.
According to one source the idiom pain in the neck comes as an euphemism of the ruder “pain in the a$$”. The origin is further described as follows:
“The idiom can be traced to the beginning of the 20th century. To go further, a German-based expression, ‘pain in the kiester’, reached the U.S. in the end of the 19th century. ‘Kiester’ originally meant simply a ‘case’ or ‘satchel’ but later acquired the informal meaning of ‘bottom’. Even earlier, annoying people were colloquially referred as ‘a pain’.”
This week’s ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) blog invites readers to consider when you have used the expression ‘pain’ or ‘pain in the neck’ to describe your impression of another person. Please consider a specific incident and person in your answers to the following.
What other ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) may you add here?
Originally posted at www.cinergycoaching.com/blog/