We aren’t usually aware of what peoples’ ‘hot buttons’ are except perhaps those of our family and friends and those we come to know well such as colleagues and co-workers. Even so, we didn’t always know what provoked them. New friends, colleagues and others start with a clean slate, too. It seems ‘hot buttons’ are things we often realize the hard way – through trial and error.
When we are provoked by something others say or do or even what they don’t say or do, many of us let the person know directly. Others do so indirectly, showing signs of being disgruntled, without really saying what is happening. Similarly, when we provoke others, they let us know in their individual ways. In either case, lots of times the signs are so indirect, we and others miss them altogether.
When we care to improve a relationship that is disrupted by a conflict, to engage in productive conflict conversations, or to show up in ways that welcome and invite dialogue of differences, it helps to consider what we do that irritates others. Here are some questions that serve to heighten awareness about this ConflictMastery™ topic:
Please add any comments or ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) you suggest on this topic about provoking others.
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