I have often heard this idiom – getting bent out of shape – when people talk about their reactions or the other person’s when in conflict. Several sources say this expression means to take offense, to become angry, agitated, or upset. For me though, the expression has more of a physical element. That is, it conjures up some interesting images – like an acrobat or pretzel.
In my work as a conflict management coach I am always mindful of how clients appear at the times they share their conflict stories and bent out of shape is apropos for some whose bodies and faces show the distress they are experiencing. However, I also hear the various distortions hearts and brains make out of things that have an adverse impact on them – emotionally and intellectually.
Focusing on the physical dimension and as discussed in previous ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) blogs (i.e. Experiencing Your Conflict), there are times we become visibly changed in the way we and our bodies look when in conflict. We may not realize how we appear to others and if they describe us we may be shocked. However, by reflecting on how we appear, even requesting others we trust to let us know how we show up, we are better able to increase our self-awareness in this regard. This, in turn, helps us to consider more intentionally how we interact and the impact on others who observe us.
If you think your anger, upset, etc. leads you to appear bent out of shape, this week’s ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) blog will resonate.
What other ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) may you add here?
Originally posted at www.cinergycoaching.com/blog/