Cinnie Noble's Blog – April 2012 Archive (7)

FORGETTING ABOUT "IT"

Intertwined with the notion of resilience and moving past the feelings and thoughts that emerge from our disputes is whether we can actually forget about what occurred. Or, do we store the emotional impact and the impressions we make about the other person and ourselves? It has been suggested in a previous blog that unless we unpack what happened for us in our interpersonal disputes we will carry the luggage around with us. This week the ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) blog is more on this…

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Added by Cinnie Noble on April 26, 2012 at 5:00am — No Comments

CLARIFYING WHAT'S HAPPENING IN A CONFLICT

So often we get wrapped up in an interpersonal conflict and lose track of what’s actually happening to us. We seem to let go of our grasp on the situation. Our emotional responses reflect the chaos and confusion going on in our hearts and minds. At these times, we may tend to misinterpret messages, attribute motives to the other person, lose our focus and lose perspective about what’s going on for us and what warrants clarification.

Before engaging the other person in a discussion to…

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Added by Cinnie Noble on April 19, 2012 at 5:00am — No Comments

PREPARING FOR A CONFLICT CONVERSATION THAT THE OTHER PERSON INITIATED

Preparing to respond to another person’s initiation of a conflict conversation can be an art and science, just as it is when we are the initiator. You may not have thought of conflict conversations as being either an art or science. The reality is we all are involved on a regular basis in communications that are and that have the potential for being difficult, emotional, inflammatory and so on.

 

It is up to us to choose whether we want to engage in difficult communications…

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Added by Cinnie Noble on April 16, 2012 at 5:00am — No Comments

RECONCILING DIFFERENCES

Even when an interpersonal dispute appears to be resolved, there are times that some of us continue to feel unresolved in our hearts and mind. Why is that? There are lots of reasons this phenomenon occurs. These include lingering feelings of hurt, anger and other remaining negative emotions. Or, it could be the realization that we regret our unspoken words and sentiments. Or, we regret saying things we know we cannot take back now. A tendency to accommodate the other person’s needs more than…

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Added by Cinnie Noble on April 12, 2012 at 5:00am — No Comments

STAYING HURT

Conflict can hurt in a way that is often indescribable. Have you ever tried to describe it? It is pain that we seem to feel throughout our being – in our hearts and bones and skin. Emotional pain can cause us to feel physically sick. This type of pain sometimes feels so deep – as though it will never go away. It hurts through and through.

 

Since hurts from conflicts often reflect how deeply we care about certain issues, it is usual that we stay in that deep place until we get…

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Added by Cinnie Noble on April 9, 2012 at 5:00am — No Comments

SELF-CARE WHEN IN CONFLICT

When we are in conflict with another person we often lose our internal balance. This may occur whether or not we externalize our feelings and thoughts. Internal impact may be apparent when self-limiting beliefs kick in, or we worry and agonize at great length about what is happening. Negative emotions may take over – about the other person and ourselves. We may tend to blow things out of proportion. Tears may come easily or sit on the edge of our eyes. We may lose sleep, feel tense,…

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Added by Cinnie Noble on April 5, 2012 at 5:00am — No Comments

BODY LANGUAGE OF CONFLICT

We are not typically aware of our body language when we are in conflict. It is especially likely at these times in fact, that we lose touch with how we come across. We are generally not conscious of what we are doing, how our faces appear, or how our bodies are otherwise ‘talking’. We tend to lose perspective on the situation and how we may even be adversely contributing to the dissension. The only mirror in front of us is the other person, who often reflects and reacts to our language and…

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Added by Cinnie Noble on April 2, 2012 at 5:00am — 2 Comments

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